30 Days
Human beings are very apt to put things into categories, i.e.; make a judgment about them. In the most basic interpretation, there are only two categories - “good” and “bad.”
We want more of what is good and less of what is bad. More pleasure, less pain. Those of us who practice mindfulness know that running from pain isn’t a very good idea - or put into a common catch phrase: that which we resist, persists.
On this journey, we’re invited to question our assumptions, and rethink what is “good” and what is “bad”. Have a look at this parable as a reminder, that from our limited vantage, we don’t often really know what’s “good” and what’s “bad.”
This accompanying poem - very popular in mindfulness circles - reminds that even difficult emotions, which we tend to resist, have value. When we begin to embrace them with self-compassion, they may even be guiding us toward something wonderful…
The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
-Rumi
Some questions for reflection today
When did something that initially seemed hard or bad turn out to be something good?
Is there another way to look at something difficult or challenging in your life, perhaps through the lens of gratitude?
Is it possible to relate to our difficult emotions with acceptance, and maybe even a sense of gratitude?
Where do you fall on the spectrum - is it very challenging for you or relatively easy - to shift perspectives?
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1) A 3 Minute Meditation on the value of difficult emotions
2) 8 Minute General Gratitude Meditation with music (if you have a Buddy)
OR
If you are short on time, this 3 breath practice can be done after you write your list:
With eyes closed or lowered gaze
Inhale for 5 counts
Hold for 5 counts
On the exhale, call to mind the 1st item on your list
Repeat with the second and third items
You can also try to add a smile or hand on chest to this practice
Gratitude Message for your Buddy
After writing, scroll down to the GREEN button: ‘SEND TODAY’S MESSAGE.’
DO NOT click on the PINK button at the bottom right or you will lose what you have written.
Optional prompt
Day 22: Through Another Lens
Today you’re invited to reflect on your challenges with another lens.